Wishing you a wonderful week so far!
One of the juicy topics that came up with two of my clients this week was about letting go of other people’s behavior and choices; and choosing to see it as a reflection of where they are in their life–instead of something directly to do with you. This shows up in relationships where two people may have completely different love languages (ways they like to be loved) and if there isn’t clarity on how each person feels loved, then one or both people may end up feeling unloved somehow, or disappointed and upset. They
Find Emotional Balance with Holistic Therapies
You have a unique story that has helped shaped you and played a HUGE role in who you are today. This is true for all of us. We were born into circumstances and certain family dynamics that shaped our psychological patterning. We needed those traits as children. It’s how we survived. My old pattern of putting others first, being a care taker, and an egg shell walker were some of the traits that got me through childhood- just as your unique patterns got you through.
The great news is that now we are adults and we don’t
A lot of our mind chatter, or I like to call it “thought traffic” tends to be our own made up assumptions about life, people, things, etc. The thing is, we often make assumptions without even realizing it. It’s often unconscious. You may decide about the meaning of what someone says or does automatically- like if someone didn’t acknowledge you in an expected way. It’s easy to think that they must not like/love you anymore or something you did caused their behavior. If fact, most of our pain and discomfort comes from making assumptions that aren’t really true whether they are even about ourselves or the ones we love.
So many times I’ve found myself creating similar lessons again and again and feeling disappointed and frustrated about it. I would think; “but I’ve done so much work in this area! Why is it still not any different?” Then they were times where I would feel helpless and believe life would be like this…forever. Then I would go to a more dramatic place inside and feel absolutely victimized by life and it would sound something like “I guess I will just always have to deal with relationship stuff or business stuff” or (fill in the blank). It was usually in those low moments where I
Losing a loved one is devastating. I want you to know that I hear you. Whether it is an unexpected/expected loss of a love one passing away, a break up, or a major transition or change, it is absolutely understandable that grief will be present. We may have a grief process over something that maybe judged as small scale, but it still feels like a loss. What’s important to know about this is that it is ALL ok and needed. Most of all- when we let the grief flow it actually takes us somewhere… Then the healing and magic
Life is truly unpredictable…
Things happen outside of our control and we can feel pulled in many and even conflicting directions.
As frustrating and tiring as this can be, it’s not a surprise that life can feel sometimes like we never can get ahead…
But we still have a choice.
Believe it or not you can still find peace on the rollar coaster. We can still buckle our seat belts and feel centered inside despite the turbulence. It is possible!
It just takes doing the work and some practice!
Check out this week’s episode of RE-ID TV to explore this a little more…
I’d love to hear any thoughts on
Winter time gives us the opportunity to get down to the “bare bones” so to speak with ourselves and our lives-this means finding emotional balance. It’s such a prime time for reflection as this year comes to a close. I invite you to give yourself this time for reflection. What part of your life really worked for you this year? What things or aspects didn’t feel good? These are the questions that truly result in emotional balance.
When you are overcoming depression or anything else, life has the potential to constantly shift and change because you are shifting
Finding emotional balance takes commitment like anything else. No matter how much we may have been conditioned to not show emotions or acknowledge our feelings, we are still emotional beings. If fact, our emotions are like messengers. The give us information about the choices we are making and if any needs are going unmet. Our emotions try to get our attention over and over AND over. It is key to listen to our emotions. Listening and honoring them helps us overcome depression, anxiety, grief and loss.
Oftentimes in the past I found myself having a not so good feeling, but then
Sometimes it’s hard to notice and have awareness about finding emotional balance and identify the things in our life that are truly no longer working. Especially if we haven’t been trained to continuely look at the “bigger picture.” We may just feel the not so good feelings inside like anxiety, depression, frustration, and an overall sense of unfulfillment. It’s WAY more difficult to let go if life feels hard to trust, along with believing that says life is difficult and doesn’t get any better than our current circumstance.
The truth is letting go of things that no longer work for
What Do You Have to Have for Good Emotional Health and Fast Codependence Recovery?
My codependence recovery involved walking through a lot of fear…mainly letting go of taking care of others and letting go of putting myself last. I would ask myself “who will still love me if I take care of myself?” A part of me didn’t believe people would show up for me if I made changes because I didn’t show up for myself. I didn’t know what that felt like. Does it ever feel scary to you to think about truly committing to a dream, relationship, or