Wishing you a wonderful week so far!
One of the juicy topics that came up with two of my clients this week was about letting go of other people’s behavior and choices; and choosing to see it as a reflection of where they are in their life–instead of something directly to do with you. This shows up in relationships where two people may have completely different love languages (ways they like to be loved) and if there isn’t clarity on how each person feels loved, then one or both people may end up feeling unloved somehow, or disappointed and upset. They may have an inner dialog that says, “if I was good enough he or she would do _____.” Or, “If I was lovable enough he or she wouldn’t do_____.” Or, “If I only_____.” Sound familiar? I can’t tell you how many times I’ve played this story and unconsciously taking on other people’s choices. Its very HEAVY and unfulfilling. It’s always important to own and acknowledge the part we played in every circumstance, but what I’m talking about is taking on more than your share.
Here’s some quick tips to support you in getting clarity around stuff with other people that you may be feeling overly responsible for, or a situation. I invite you to watch this week’s episode of RE-ID TV on how you are only responsible for you and to find comfort in that.
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